Premature ejaculation - destroying relationships in three steps
Premature ejaculation means that a man does not last long enough to fully satisfy his partner.
Lack of satisfaction will even be an issue if other strategies are employed to meet the challenge.
She winds up accusing herself of not participating to the intercourse or of turning on her partner over the normal limits. Faking orgasm can sometimes be a solution out of this dead end.
Premature ejaculation - consequences in three phases
Tired of these repetitive failures she can often end up by refusing to have sex with her partner. Sexual relations get more and more rare. She then decides to react.
Cold behaviour or hints that the opinion of a specialist would be appropriate are all tactics she might use. She can try to go back to a more intense sexual life by taking the initiative of sexual relations.
Than comes a phase which we can call the resignation phase. The hope for resolution of the issue is on both partners mind almost constantly. When sexual relations get more and more rare the man can complain about his partner’s frigidity: “She never wants to make love to me!”
At this point the woman rebels and looks for the pleasure her partner never offered her, in the arms of a new lover. The prospect of an improvement for the couple fades away. The chances of a therapy to succeed are getting lower. There is also a big gap between sexual pleasure and the feelings that bind the two partners.
And then comes the break up point. Sexual relations don’t occur anymore. The woman doesn’t feel any kind of attraction towards the man anymore. Another man has taken care of her orgasm for quite some time now.
Unlikely at it is there might still be feeling for him on her the lady's side. Even if she doesn’t consider physical separation, this is what it actually is about. Any kind of therapy seems to be doomed to failure.
Living through the consequences of premature ejaculation
Here is the account of a woman who got through these phases and tells about it:
“At the beginning of our relationship he used to come 5 minutes after penetration. I used to fake having orgasms in order to please him. Than I had enough and told him.
He felt offended but he still decided to improve our sex life by insisting on preliminaries. I still got frustrated as I could feel nothing between my legs for more than five minutes. I used to compare him with my ex in my mind who would last for more than 20 minutes. With him I used to get amazing orgasms.
I had the impression of having tried everything with my partner in order to make him understand that he must go and see a doctor to stop premature ejaculation. He would get tired of my insistence and feel more and more offended.
I started to refuse to have sex with him and in time I felt less and less attracted to him.
I still had feelings of affection for him but chemistry was long gone. I got enticed by this other man and now I am his girl. I also started to develop feelings towards this new guy and soon my old couple broke up.
I have no regrets in having broken up with this guy. I tried everything out.
He might have felt ashamed and frustrated for being a premature ejaculator but I felt even more frustrated for not feeling anything during sex. Now with my new lover I feel completely fulfilled.”
Premature ejaculation - a conclusion
Not everything is about sex but sex leads to the completeness of a relationship.
Men that are too lazy to cure their premature ejaculation are no relationship material in my opinion. They can hardly be called real men.
All information on how to cure premature ejaculation is out there. Why not end the suffering of countless women?
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